Freedom to Choose and Heal with Life Coaching

We all carry different types of beliefs that limit our lives. Many times, we go through life without questioning them—until one day, something drastic happens, and we start to question our very existence.

From the moment we are conceived, we begin absorbing beliefs—some that will help us in life, but others that will limit us, keep us stuck, and block our development as adults and emotionally mature beings.

We often repeat popular sayings without thinking, and pass them on to our children automatically. For example: “Family is the most important thing.” “Make yourself indispensable.” “Men are all womanizers.” “Women must take care of the children.” “It’s selfish to put myself first.”

“My worth depends on my physical appearance.” “It’s too late to chase my dreams.” “You can’t be successful and a mother at the same time.” “I must be perfect to be accepted.” “Cry and you’ll cry alone, smile and the world smiles with you.”

But what if your family is toxic, suffocating, invasive? Isn’t it time to start setting boundaries, and in some cases, even stop seeing them altogether?

“My worth depends on my physical appearance.” How often have we skipped an event because we didn’t feel pretty or slim enough, or feared not being accepted by others? This belief turns women into something like a container that must look good based on current beauty trends—ignoring our skills, our personality, and the fact that we are human beings worthy of love.

“Cry and you’ll cry alone, smile and the world smiles with you.” This belief encourages us to hide our emotions, to wear a mask, and to pretend to be okay so that others won’t see our vulnerability—as if being vulnerable were a weakness.

To free ourselves, we must begin to question our beliefs. Are they helping us live authentically? Are they stealing our peace and keeping us from living a full life?

Let’s reflect on the messages behind these beliefs and replace them with empowering, affirmative thoughts. Let’s rewrite the narrative. Let’s become free thinkers who decide for ourselves what to accept and what to reject, without trying to change others. I remind myself of this often, because I still catch myself judging someone for thinking differently. But life has taught me to pause, let the emotion flow, and ask myself: What’s really bothering me? What is this triggering in me?

Using Bioneuroemotion®, developed by Enric Corbera (2017), I guide clients to discover the moment when a limiting belief was implanted. In my Life Coaching sessions, Bioneuroemotion® is one of the tools I use to help clients free themselves from emotional patterns that show up in the body and can even manifest as physical illness. When I face conflict, I name what’s interfering, reflect on it, and ask: What is this discomfort trying to teach me? What do I need to learn from this—not to play the victim, but to empower myself?

The more compassionately we observe ourselves, the more space we can create between what we feel, think, and how we act. Life Coaching helps you pause, ask powerful questions, and connect with your unconscious mind to bring limiting beliefs to light—empowering you to become the responsible author of your life. These tools build what’s called personal agency—your ability to respond rather than react.

As your self-awareness grows and you free yourself from these internal limitations, you’ll be able to make decisions aligned with your values, rather than reacting impulsively when a conflict touches an unresolved wound.

In psychology, there’s a concept about how people perceive the causes of events in their lives—called locus of control. There are two types:

• Internal Locus of Control: People with this believe they can influence their life outcomes through their actions and decisions. They take responsibility for their successes and failures, are more proactive and resilient, and tend to have higher self-esteem.

  For example, someone with an internal locus of control in a conflict situation takes ownership, reflects, and looks for solutions—seeing the challenge as a growth opportunity. They resolve conflict with assertiveness, respect, and honesty.

  Through Life Coaching and the tools I’ve learned over the years, I help clients develop this empowered perspective.

• External Locus of Control: These individuals believe their lives are controlled by external forces—luck, fate, or other people. They blame others for their problems and see themselves as victims.

  This mindset leads to passivity, projection, and avoidance of responsibility. They experience more anxiety, stress, and hopelessness because they feel powerless. Their self-esteem is usually low.

  
  

Through coaching, I guide clients to explore how they perceive life’s challenges. With self-awareness, they come to know both their strengths and blind spots. As they integrate these parts of themselves, they learn to approach conflicts with empowerment—not as victims, but as protagonists of their own lives.

With self-observation, you can uncover repetitive emotional patterns that keep you stuck. As part of the process, you also develop the ability to accept. Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up—it means recognizing that we can’t change others. It’s accepting differences, the reality of conflict, our own responsibility, and setting limits, reducing resistance and suffering, and opening space for creative solutions.

For example, I love dancing, but my husband doesn’t. He loves watching football. I used to think he was boring. But during a coaching session with a colleague, I realized I was judging him based on my belief that dancing = fun. From his point of view, maybe I was the boring one for not liking football.

That’s when I understood—we don’t need to like the same things. I could do things I enjoy without him, and he could do the same. We found something we both enjoyed to share, and I accepted our differences. Now I go to dance classes that bring me joy, and he watches his games—sometimes alone, sometimes with our kids or friends.

In summary, Life Coaching helps you uncover limiting beliefs stored in your unconscious, develop personal agency, and accept that we don’t all think alike. It empowers you to embrace your internal locus of control, build self-esteem, and make decisions from a place of freedom—seeing obstacles as allies that show you what still needs healing.

I invite you to start your journey toward empowerment and reflection through individual or group sessions at El Camino de Luz.